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The book in 3 bullets
Preserving a friendship through changing lives.
Heartbreak and self-forgiveness through 20s and 30s.
Learning the difference between intensity and intimacy.
Who is it for?
If you are in the midst of changing dynamics in a friend group (i.e. career, love, etc.).
If you would like to become a better friend to someone and to yourself.
If you want to learn more about meaningful love within friendship.
Why did I read it?
It was an accident. I’ll save the details for the Audio Deep Cut. I kept reading it anyway.
I wanted to know how I could preserve some of my friendships as people’s lives were changing via marriage, careers, etc.
I wanted to know what I should be doing to adapt to these new dynamics and the introduction of people I didn’t account for (i.e. lovers of my friends).
What does it help with?
Learning to become a better friend through thick and thin.
What matters in a relationship? Both platonic and romantic.
How to be independent as you spend more time without your friends.
What I got out of it
How to appreciate the new dynamics within an old friendship.
What it means to be at peace with yourself and the relationships around you.
Learning the difference between intensity and intimacy.
Top 7 Quotes
How her value increased, the more history we shared together, like a beautiful, precious work of art hanging in my living room.
I know what it is to love someone and accept that you can’t change certain things about them;
More often than not, the love someone gives you will be a reflection of the love you give yourself. If you can’t treat yourself with kindness, care, and patience, chances are someone else won’t either.
Breakups get harder with every year you get older. When you’re young, you lose a boyfriend. As you get older, you lose a life together.
It is no person’s job to be the sole provider of your happiness.
The older you get, the more baggage you carry. When you date at twenty-five, everyone walks into the bar with a very neat, light carry-on.
“Is what all life is?” Margaret asked soothingly, putting her arm around her. “Fucking . . . Tottenham Court Road and ordering shit off Amazon,” she replied.
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